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Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Posted on: June 2, 2011 2:54 pm
Edited on: June 2, 2011 2:57 pm
 
Posted by Matt Norlander

This Fab Melo ordeal is getting ugly quickly. In fact, it's been allegedly ugly and unseemly and inappropriate for awhile.

That's because the Syracuse sophomore center's unidentified girlfriend told police that Melo has been abusive toward her "four or five" times since the two began an intimate relationship in October.

Melo was arrained in court Wednesday morning due to an incident wherein he became violent and broke the turning signal in his girlfriend's car. After obtaining the police report, the Post-Standard has more details, per the girlfriend's account.

On Monday, the 22-year-old woman fled Melo’s Slocum Heights apartment after Melo became jealous, first of a phone call and then of males who had posted comments on her Facebook wall.

On Tuesday, she was escorted to the Syracuse police’s Domestic Violence Unit by an assistant district attorney, where detectives interviewed her. She told them that coming to the police was “her last resort,” records state.

The details get worse from there. Melo looked at her Facebook wall (Facebook is the worst thing to ever happen to relationships), saw some comments from other males he didn't approve of, then smashed his computer in anger. Naturally.

According to the girl's statement, then there was a fight in the house and she attempted to leave after sequestering herself for some time in Melo's bathroom. Before getting away in her car, Melo threw dirt on her, bloodied his hand somehow, and then reached into her car and ripped off her turn signal.

While doing this, his blood smeared on his girlfriend's shirt. That shirt is now being held as evidence. Melo apparently told her, "Here, you want my blood?" before the incident ended. How dramatic and romantic. Goodness gracious what an unnecessary catastrophe.

The relationship ended in May -- and then the two got back together recently. We've all either been a part of something like this or had a close friend or two get sucked into a vortex of it's-done/no-it's-not-done relationship that tailspins until its ultimate, inevitable, ugly end. That scene usually reaches a head outside of a party between the hours of 1 and 4 a.m. Crying and cursing tags alongside a feeling of defeated and apathetic acceptance. A sad but crucial stage in the evolution of dating.

It's very clear that Melo has the same issue so many hot-blooded college-age men and women fall victim to: insufferable, crippling jealousy. That's still not reason to ever, ever get violent with a woman. And now Melo's seemingly done too much and put himself and his reputation in a very bad spot.

As of now his status on the team isn't in question. Should it be? We're talking about a player allegedly abusing his girlfriend. Serious character issues -- and Melo wasn't a difference-maker last season. Sadly, college athletes have remained on teams for doing worse, sometimes without discipline. Jim Boeheim will let the law take its course before he does anything, most likely. Melo will appear in Syracuse court June 14.

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Comments

Since: Sep 21, 2010
Posted on: June 3, 2011 11:14 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Typical Orangemen



Since: Sep 21, 2010
Posted on: June 3, 2011 11:13 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Typical Orangemen



Since: Aug 16, 2006
Posted on: June 3, 2011 11:03 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

I'm still trying to find the abusive part?!?!?!  He broke a turn signal and a laptop. Rage?  Yes!  Abusive?  No!

Unless there are things that they aren't telling us.  He never hit her, grabbed her, or anything else of the sort.  Just broke some inanimate objects.  She could of stayed broken up with him and kept her distance.  She could of left and stayed gone after he broke her turn signal, one of the dudes on facebook could of fixed it for free.

Maybe she was mad he didn't punch her or verbally abuse her?

I'm not faulting the girl, they are both stupid for putting themselves in that situation to begin with but she was out once and out on her second time.


Reminds me of my friend who went to jail because his ex called the cops when he kicked her out and she didn't leave.  All he did was grabbed her stuff and put it outside. 



Since: Jul 1, 2007
Posted on: June 3, 2011 10:50 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Wow man, if you don't see the seriousness of what he did you are either an amazing homer, or completely out of touch with reality.




Since: Sep 24, 2007
Posted on: June 3, 2011 10:21 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Breaking a turn signal is absolutely unforgivable!
He should have his scholarship revoked, he should be thrown off the team, the program should get an NCAA investigation and he should be tried and convicted of abusing a turn signal.
He never gave that turn signal a chance to get away, he hunted it down and destroyed it in the prime of it's life.
He should suffer the same fate as the turn signal, he should be drawn and quartered.
Most be a slow week for news.



Since: May 18, 2011
Posted on: June 3, 2011 2:14 am
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

if this is true, melo should lose his scholarship and get kicked off of the team! NO CLASS!! He sucks anyways!



Since: Dec 5, 2006
Posted on: June 3, 2011 1:19 am
 

A jealous, abusive boyfriend

Friends I have no knowledge of this man's actions. But I have seen way too much of the attitude and actions described from others. It does not work. No matter what she or he may say or do with others, violence and abuse are never appropriate. They do not serve the relationship. They do not help.

1. If your mate has a problem with writing or talking to/with others, discuss the events in a calm unthreatening manner when you can be in private.

2. If you feel like the actions or words are inappropriate, ask about the intention. Everyone deserves an opportunity to explain. Often someone will not understand the hurt they may have caused.

3. If you don't like the explanation or do not trust it, get up and leave. You will not benefit from letting your blood boil.

4. After cooling off, decide if the relationship can be salvaged. If so, go an discuss the steps needed to recover. If not end it gracefully. You can only drag yourself down by being nasty.

5. Never, ever threaten another person. That does not register? How about 3-5 years in jail - does that register more?

6. It takes a bigger man to walk away than to be angry. It takes a better man, if angry, to not express the anger. It takes simple reason for any man to let go before using or threatening violence.

There are many more people in this world if a relationship is not working. Your manhood (or womanhood) is not an issue to be defended. Just move on and live with yourself in more comfort and maturity.



Since: Jan 29, 2007
Posted on: June 2, 2011 11:41 pm
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

hell yeah dude.

Women have WAY too many rights. Like the same amount as men even!


At least they'll never be able to pee standing up.



Since: Jan 29, 2007
Posted on: June 2, 2011 11:40 pm
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

Absolutely.. the last guy named Fab was in Milli Vanilli... and look how guilty they were.






Since: Nov 15, 2008
Posted on: June 2, 2011 8:45 pm
 

Fab Melo allegedly a jealous, abusive boyfriend

The point is this - don't beat up girls man.  I understand what I have read and people feeling women are like that and that is one opinion.  The truth is guy or gal doesn't matter what matters is really how you react.  If you fly off and start ripping stuff off a car that's not your own and putting your hands on the opposite sex then you find yourself in trouble with the law.  How about later hoebag or whatever and move on.  Maybe that was his first girlfriend or something.


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