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Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

Posted on: February 11, 2012 6:30 pm
Edited on: February 11, 2012 7:02 pm
 
Williams and the Tar Heels bounced back with a win over Virginia Saturday afternoon. (Getty Images)

By Gary Parrish


The North Carolina Tar Heels cruised Saturday to a 70-52 victory over Virginia that helped put behind them Wednesday's crushing loss to Duke, you know, that loss in which Tyler Zeller missed free throws, scored on his own team and let Austin Rivers bury a jumper at the buzzer.

This win over Virginia was good.

But that loss to Duke was really bad.

It was so bad Roy Williams was asked Saturday how Zeller handled it.

A portion of the coach's answer quickly made its way around Twitter and other social media sites.

"We had a chance to visit and [Zeller] said I was one of the few guys who could make him laugh," Williams said, according to an audio clip provided to CBSSports.com by Inside Carolina's Dijana Kunovac. "I asked him Thursday night when I called him late, I said 'Are you thinking about getting the knives out and slicing your wrist?' He said 'Maybe.' I said, 'Well if you're gonna do that then call me and I'll come do it with you.' I told him my son would want to know it first so he could change the will and get control of everything. He liked that statement, too."

Roy Williams slicing wrist audio

But some fans didn't like that statement at all. To them, this was good 'ol Roy -- the same coach who once compared a losing streak to the earthquake in Haiti -- sticking his big 'ol foot in his big 'ol mouth, but I can't be outraged. And those of you who are probably need to relax a little.

I mean, the man was just joking.

Have we really reached the point where jokes aren't allowed?

All I ever hear are people bemoaning the idea that our sports lack real characters. We say we hate coachspeak then attack those who try not to deliver it, and that seems dumb. So let the record show that I have no issue with Williams' story ... and, yes, I realize suicide is a serious issue.

I've had friends commit suicide.

I've had friends survive suicide attempts.

Guns. Pills. Razors-to-wrists. We all have stories.

Suicide is a very serious and sad thing. I can't imagine what it must be like to reach a point where ending your life seems like a better option than continuing it. But trainwrecks are serious, too. And people have died that way, too. And yet I sat at the KFC Yum! Center last Monday watching Louisville dismantle Connecticut while folks publicly described the Huskies as a "trainwreck," and I don't remember anybody reminding the world that it's not funny to joke about trainwrecks. Because it's just a term we use to make a point. Everybody basically understands this. It's fine.

Raise your hand if you've never joked around and said the words, "Man, I'd rather die than do that."

Raise your hand if you've never shaped your fingers like a gun and pointed them at yourself.

Raise your hand if you've never typed the letters KYS.

My guess is that most reading this have done at least one of those things, and I bet most didn't mean any of it literally. You don't really mean you'd rather die than eat black olives, you wouldn't really put your finger under your chin if it were a loaded gun, and you don't really want a Facebook friend to kill himself. Those are just expressions designed to make points, and that's all Williams was trying to do Saturday. He was just trying to make a point about how devastating that loss to Duke was to he and Zeller and UNC in general, and I thought he made the point rather well.
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Since: Dec 30, 2008
Posted on: February 12, 2012 5:14 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I lost my brother to suicide and it's not funny at all. I didn't like Roy much before but now I really can't stand him. A shame that a person with that platform would say something that could hurt so many people like me.
I understand completely. I lost my little bro as well.

Despite being offended, I want to re-emphasize that the basis for punishing Williams (censoring, fines, suspension, issuing apology etc) is not warranted. Not because "being politically correct is stupid", but because I don't believe that offending our sensibilities/dignity constitutes harm. People say outrageously stupid stuff like this all the time, and while it is wrong and moronic, he should be permitted to say it. This just shows the world that he's got sh*t-for-brains lol



Since: Dec 5, 2010
Posted on: February 12, 2012 4:45 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

The politically correct need to go take a flying jump.Its not to hard to understand the context of what he was saying,get over yourselves and your self importance.




Since: Nov 25, 2009
Posted on: February 12, 2012 4:20 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I lost my brother to suicide and it's not funny at all. I didn't like Roy much before but now I really can't stand him. A shame that a person with that platform would say something that could hurt so many people like me.

Since you made your account today, I welcome to the board terps39.  Sorry about your brother.



Since: Feb 12, 2012
Posted on: February 12, 2012 4:14 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I lost my brother to suicide and it's not funny at all. I didn't like Roy much before but now I really can't stand him. A shame that a person with that platform would say something that could hurt so many people like me.



Since: Oct 29, 2006
Posted on: February 12, 2012 3:56 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I can understand why some people would be alarmed at Coach William's comments.  The coach was concerned and his intentions were kind hearted.  Sometimes in these sensitive situations, the wrong words come out.  It happens to the best of us.  Zeller is no doubt very smart, and I'm sure he and Coach know each other well enough by now to appreciate the coach's intentions to support.  Everyone move on now.  There is nothing to see here.




Since: Dec 30, 2008
Posted on: February 12, 2012 3:50 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I'm seriously offended by the comments, but by no means should they be censored nor should he have to apologize. The only thing that should come of this issue is that the public knows that Roy Williams is a moron. That's it. 



Since: Apr 2, 2009
Posted on: February 12, 2012 3:40 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

Cmon people... lighten up... 

As a HS coach, I will be the first to say Coach said NOTHING WRONG!!!

He made light of the situation that his great player was upset at himself and made a kid smile.  Just because we hear the words "slice your wrist" does not mean it is offensive, immoral, or wrong.  Everything needs to be looked at in context.  

Yes if a coach tells his player "go slit your wrists, you cost us the game" and if that is all the coach said, I would understand.  BUT that is exactly what Coach DID NOT SAY.  

if you are offended by his comments, you need a hobby in your life and let me be the first to tell you that you are adding way too much stress in your life to enjoy it and life will end sooner than later for you.

Cmon people, it's just a game and that is what coach's message was.. now relax and enjoy the greatest time of year, College Basketball Season 



Since: May 18, 2009
Posted on: February 12, 2012 3:02 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

This here is in fact what is wrong with people. LIGHTEN THE HECK UP!!! Could any of you handled the 70's or 80's with the way people were, honest and telling people how it is. More and more of you out there are becoming soft. Every little word that someone says is analyzed, picked at, turned over and analyzed again. It was a JOKE what he said to Zeller. Stop being such baby's and stop acting like you idiots have backbones and let things slide. The problem with society is that as a whole, we've turned soft and and don't want feelings hurt. Everyone should get along right? So Roy says something that YOU may not like. BIG DEAL!!! He wasn't saying it thinking about all you idiots and what you cared about. He said it in hoping that Zell would realize it was just a game and not to take it hard. So if I were to tell you all to relax and go take a ride up shit creek without a paddle, would you? and would you do so without a paddle? Morons.



Since: Oct 20, 2008
Posted on: February 12, 2012 2:26 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I've had friends commit suicide.

I've had friends survive suicide attempts.
Being friends with you pushed them to the brink?



Since: Feb 12, 2012
Posted on: February 12, 2012 2:05 pm
 

Offended by Roy's suicide story? Not me

I completely agree with this article.. people just need to lighten up in the world... we've all made jokes we probably shouldn't have but people shouldnt be as offended about it as they are, instead just laugh it off


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