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The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

Posted on: March 4, 2008 9:21 am
Edited on: March 4, 2008 9:22 am
 
I know all you men out there like breasts, right?  Some like them big and some like them small, but in the end, you like them all or shall I say love them all?  This is the important part of this assignment for all you men out there.  Believe it or not you can actually help your woman maintain her health by noticing and talking about any abnormal lumps you may feel in the breast when you are …..uh…..examining them.  Yeah that’s it, examination. My friend’s husband noticed a lump in her breast and it was cancer. She received immediate treatment and she is doing quite well now thanks to him. Women are encouraged to give themselves exams but another opinion never hurts and that is where you guys come in.   Now to be fair in my public service announcement it would be unfair if I left you fellows out of the discussion. Men can also have breast cancer. My Grandfather has had both breasts removed about 8 years ago due to cancerous tumors growing there.  You fellows should check yourselves and don’t be too embarrassed to ask your physician about anything you find.   Breast cancer is devastating for women.  Mastectomies steal a part of our femininity from us. We don’t feel sexy. We feel deformed. It is incredibly emotional, the damage it does to your self image and self worth.   How do I know this? I didn’t have a husband or boyfriend find my lumps.  I happened to have gotten an MRI on my shoulder as a result of a bike crash which left my rotator cuff in shambles.  This was a blessing in disguise for me. As a result I have had a double mastectomy. Chemotherapy took my hair. The avatar pictures that I have posted were me before breast cancer.  I am embarrassed to have posted these pictures now because I have been dishonest with myself and you readers out there.  I have been living in the past, enjoying the ability to be able to flirt again.  To be noticed again. As Gezemice correctly pointed out, I am underweight for a woman 5’9” in height at 123 pounds.  But not really given what is missing and the anemia I am struggling with. She encouraged me to see a doctor, concerned I may have an eating disorder, and I wish that was it. I am happy to say I am doing fine. Latest tests were negative and my prognosis is good. I am supposed to see a plastic surgeon in a few months about reconstruction.  I actually still play great golf.  And I work out constantly to rebuild my strength.  And mountain biking starts up soon.   Now this blog is not intended to draw pity from any of you.  And I certainly do not want to depress anyone.  Rather to come clean with myself and perhaps do some good for all of you. Please heed this warning. Check yourselves. See your doctor’s. Get the uncomfortable things looked at (mammograms, paps smears, prostates, colonoscopies, etc…) and you may live long enough to see the Cubs win a World Series.    This blog has been cathartic for me. Thanks for listening and get out there and give some examinations (ask for permission and warm up your hands, first….LOL).   I think I am done for a while.  Have a great spring. Amanda Victoria
Category: General
Tags: Health
 
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Since: Oct 30, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 10:59 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

AV,

You have revealed your true beauty in this post, and it is transcendent.

Do whatever you must to heal yourself. You don't have my pity... instead, my complete admiration.    CG




Since: Sep 4, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 10:20 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

AV, part of what makes forums like this unique is that, for better or worse, we can be whoever we want to be.  Some of us take this opportunity to say things we might never say in real life, some of us use the opportunity as a diversion, and a few people, like you, actually reveal a very personal and private part of their lives for the betterment of the community.  I know you said this was cathartic for you, but it is also meaningful for the rest of us.  In revealing a part of yourself, you've also "outed" some of the rest of us.  I suspect that we're all here for one reason or another, and I for one am glad to have read your posts and your comments, no matter which avatar is attached to them.  Hope to see your posts again! 


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Since: Jun 12, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 8:02 pm
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Since: May 16, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 7:46 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

AV,
Props to you for opening up and sharing your real life with us. I know that most things on here are fun and games..........as well as pent up aggression by others who I will not name. But you should know that there are people here who really do care. I wish you a speedy recovery and hope you have a long and happy life.
We have all lived in the past at some point in our lives. There are certain things that we just don't want to let go of. I  often reminisce of all  my past experiences.........wishing that I could relive those days. But I continue to move forward with where I am in life and accept the fact that I'm getting older and things change. Obviously, you have taken the step to push forward and find your own happiness and I wish you all the best.

I hope that you will continue to post here, though. You have strong opinions that you are able to back up with knowledge and that seems to be a rare thing here. I enjoy reading your blogs and comments because they sometimes make me look at things differently. Other times, they make me laugh. Either way it is a good thing. Keep it up and know that we're here to support you.

Just don't think that this changes anything with our nassau!    



Since: Sep 21, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 7:25 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

The avatar pictures that I have posted were me before breast cancer.  I am embarrassed to have posted these pictures now because I have been dishonest with myself and you readers out there.  I have been living in the past, enjoying the ability to be able to flirt again.  To be noticed again.

Nothing wrong with wanting to look sexy & flirt AV. Every1 does. God bless girl it took a lot of guts to put your story out there. Prayers are with you for a continued recovery & a long happy life




Since: Oct 14, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 7:13 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

I have witnessed 4 aces and one double eagle.  Always a bridesmaid......

I have One Double Eagle and witnessed 2 others...mine seems like a 100 years ago...I was in Atlanta at the time...Hit a decent drive...Hit a slicing 3 wood ..which by luck I needed a fade...I never saw it go in..

 

Your day will come




Since: Aug 16, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 6:14 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

I have witnessed 4 aces and one double eagle.  Always a bridesmaid......



Since: Oct 14, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 5:38 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

AV..Check your PM's



Since: Oct 14, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 5:36 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

And I will make an ace this year... 27 years and never had one.  I am due....(the eternal optimist).

AV

AV...

 

Me either...I have  never even witnessed one...




Since: Aug 16, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 5:27 pm
 

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

Thank you all for your kind words.  It is great to know I have friends out there.  I really am doing well.  Rest assured.

And I will make an ace this year... 27 years and never had one.  I am due....(the eternal optimist).

AV



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