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The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

Posted on: March 4, 2008 9:21 am
Edited on: March 4, 2008 9:22 am
I know all you men out there like breasts, right?  Some like them big and some like them small, but in the end, you like them all or shall I say love them all?  This is the important part of this assignment for all you men out there.  Believe it or not you can actually help your woman maintain her health by noticing and talking about any abnormal lumps you may feel in the breast when you are …..uh…..examining them.  Yeah that’s it, examination. My friend’s husband noticed a lump in her breast and it was cancer. She received immediate treatment and she is doing quite well now thanks to him. Women are encouraged to give themselves exams but another opinion never hurts and that is where you guys come in.   Now to be fair in my public service announcement it would be unfair if I left you fellows out of the discussion. Men can also have breast cancer. My Grandfather has had both breasts removed about 8 years ago due to cancerous tumors growing there.  You fellows should check yourselves and don’t be too embarrassed to ask your physician about anything you find.   Breast cancer is devastating for women.  Mastectomies steal a part of our femininity from us. We don’t feel sexy. We feel deformed. It is incredibly emotional, the damage it does to your self image and self worth.   How do I know this? I didn’t have a husband or boyfriend find my lumps.  I happened to have gotten an MRI on my shoulder as a result of a bike crash which left my rotator cuff in shambles.  This was a blessing in disguise for me. As a result I have had a double mastectomy. Chemotherapy took my hair. The avatar pictures that I have posted were me before breast cancer.  I am embarrassed to have posted these pictures now because I have been dishonest with myself and you readers out there.  I have been living in the past, enjoying the ability to be able to flirt again.  To be noticed again. As Gezemice correctly pointed out, I am underweight for a woman 5’9” in height at 123 pounds.  But not really given what is missing and the anemia I am struggling with. She encouraged me to see a doctor, concerned I may have an eating disorder, and I wish that was it. I am happy to say I am doing fine. Latest tests were negative and my prognosis is good. I am supposed to see a plastic surgeon in a few months about reconstruction.  I actually still play great golf.  And I work out constantly to rebuild my strength.  And mountain biking starts up soon.   Now this blog is not intended to draw pity from any of you.  And I certainly do not want to depress anyone.  Rather to come clean with myself and perhaps do some good for all of you. Please heed this warning. Check yourselves. See your doctor’s. Get the uncomfortable things looked at (mammograms, paps smears, prostates, colonoscopies, etc…) and you may live long enough to see the Cubs win a World Series.    This blog has been cathartic for me. Thanks for listening and get out there and give some examinations (ask for permission and warm up your hands, first….LOL).   I think I am done for a while.  Have a great spring. Amanda Victoria
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Tags: Health

Since: Oct 11, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 4:19 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.


Continue the fight. You are a beautiful,amazing,talented, and strong woman.  You seem to me a "ladies lady"  that is the highest compliment I can give another woman.  LD and I had our lives touched by breast CA this year through a family member and we know the kind of love and support she was shown. 

Strength and thoughts


Since: Feb 21, 2008
Posted on: March 4, 2008 3:57 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.


It's always a pleaseure to read comments from open and honest people such as yourself.  My family too has been touched by cancer, my mother being a survivor of the disease.  God bless her, I wish I was half as tough as she is.  Great to hear you are doing well and continue to fight.


Since: Sep 4, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 2:48 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.


Most on here know that my 1st wife passed away a number of years ago.  Not too many of them know she had a bout with Breast Cancer (she died of an un-related illness) and beat it.  She too had a mastectomy as part of her cancer treatment.  Although I have since met a wonderful woman and re-married, there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of my 1st wife.  It's not her breasts that I think about, rather it is her the person.

In your case, they removed some tissue.  They did not remove your heart, your brain or, more importantly, they did not remove your soul.   The essence that made you what you were is still there making you what you are now . . . only better.

Since: Jan 22, 2008
Posted on: March 4, 2008 2:48 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.


You are an amazing woman, with an amazing personality.  Looks come and go, but its whats on the inside that counts, and any man worth having, knows that, and if he can't see what you have to offer, then he's not worth the breath your wasting on him.  I would hope you don't leave this website, as I, for one, have looked forward to chatting with you, as well as many others on here from across the nation.  Hell, I entered your Man Show last weekend, so that has to account for something.  I myself have always had the goods on the inside, but I have had to work hard for my body on the outside, as have you.  So please join us here often.

Take Care,

Big Brotha.

Since: Jan 1, 2008
Posted on: March 4, 2008 2:35 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

AV, you are clearly a strong woman with one heck of a head on your shoulders.  I admire your honesty, wit, golf game, and strength.  Thanks for the interesting commentaries on this message board.  I will miss you for sure.  Heal well and I look forward to hearing from you in the future.  Perhaps after a hole-in-one this Spring.

Since: Dec 31, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 1:14 pm

its a jihad!

On breast cancer!

I don't know anyone personally who has gone through this so in that light I suppose I should be thankful.

But from what I've known of you from the boards and in conversations you're a tough cookie, which is why I brought milk. *wah wah* You've overcome many an obstacle and now I've learned that ontop of beating cobra commander in an arm wrestling match you also whooped cancer.

That is only a testament to who you are.

So don't be afraid to hold back on what makes you you. You're obviously well liked and not just for baseless reasons like vanity.

I'm sure this difficult admission will only want to make people know more about you.

Since: Jan 24, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 1:08 pm
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Since: May 28, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 12:55 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

Very touching comments AV.  If putting a picture of yourself from a few years ago makes you happy then you shouldn't have to apologize or be ashamed of that.  God knows I have done worse to feel good about myself!  We all have to face this thing called life and it throws a lot of crap at us all.  You deal with it the way you need to in order to make it from day to day and don't worry one bit about it. 

None of us can ever know exactly what is going on with the people we talk to.  Unfortunately, you can't take something back after you have said it or done it.  You have touched many more people with your comments and posts than you can imagine and more than you will ever know.  I am sure most people find some kind of shelter from the storm on this site and enjoy it otherwise why would we keep coming back.  Thank you for your insight and for the very personal story you have told.  I look forward to many more conversations with you and with all the others on here too. 

Since: Sep 5, 2006
Posted on: March 4, 2008 12:46 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.

congrats on your recovery amanda!

although this is totally different, my sister had and beat hodgkins disease when she was 32. she lost all her hair too due to having chemo treatments for a yr. she'll be 50 this august. she's a surivivor and so are you !!!!

Since: Jun 24, 2007
Posted on: March 4, 2008 12:42 pm

The real AV. Catharsis is healthy.


 I also want to add, you are the pied piper of this community, I like reading your posts. You are a real joy to have around, and the PM you sent me telling me about you was simply amazing, you are a beautiful, and wonderful women.


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