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The Second Coming of My Virginity

Posted on: May 10, 2008 12:24 pm

It had been 10 months for me.  Now granted I haven't felt up to it for the last 6 or 7 months.  But even then I was starting to wonder if I was going to ever have an opportunity to enjoy lovemaking again.  But alas, I have met a very nice man and have been spending quite abit of time with him for the last several weeks - explanation for my absence around here.  Anyway, it just sorta happened and it was a huge relief for me in many ways.  The obvious one, of course.  But just getting back into the saddle without my bridle (breasts) and riding the horse again - sorry for the metaphor - was strange and awkward - but he was very patient and gentile and what a ride I gave him!!!

So I guess I have lost my second virginity.....   Nice!!  Oh so nice indeed.

So I want to know.....what is the longest stretch of abstinence you have gone through, what was the reason and what did it feel like to get back on the carnival ride?  I know my stomach had butterflies.

AV (is back)



Since: Jul 30, 2008
Posted on: July 30, 2008 3:37 am

The Second Coming of My Virginity

It took me awhile after my divorce to get back into the game which was 5 years. Just like it did the first but I relized I ain't lost anything.

Since: Mar 17, 2008
Posted on: May 29, 2008 1:19 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

Three wife had an affair and some how it was, still is my fault.  It was a year ago and I am still paying, averaging sex less than once a month.  I stayed because I love her and too many people just find it easier to quit than to fight for their desires.  Now after I have read many books, completely remodeled my being, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, I know it was not my fault and I am staying to be a father to our son, but I must admit I am beginning to resent her and distance my heart from her.  I am worthy of love and desire so passionately to romance a woman and not just physically.  I suppose I have one foot out the door, but I struggle to maintain our home, work, further my education and still smile at her with kindness, understanding and compassion.  Suck it up and drive on I suppose or realize it is a lost battle, retreat, pick up the pieces and rebuild.  Anyway, congrats on getting back in the saddle as you say and I pray you peace with your triumph over cancer.

Since: Mar 20, 2008
Posted on: May 23, 2008 11:36 am

The Second Coming of My Virginity

I can only speak from my experience, but when my wife was pregnant (both times), she was ready to go way more than usual.  But to answer the question, the longest stretch was seven months.  It was a depression-related period of inactivity.  It is brutal to sleep next to the object of your desires and know that she is not even thinking about it.  There have been other long stretches, but that was the longest.  Fortunately, meds are working wonders, and things are fairly regular again.  Anyone believe that after "waiting" until I was 29, I've had to put up with this!  God works in mysterious ways.

Since: Jun 24, 2007
Posted on: May 15, 2008 3:46 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

AV - Welcome back you have been missed. A woman with your inner strength, and beauty is something a man can really draw from, cherish and enjoy. Av the so called "saddle", girl you could ride that horse bare-back. You are such a pleasure and joy to have around here.



Since: Jan 31, 2008
Posted on: May 15, 2008 2:41 am

The Second Coming of My Virginity

Congrats on getting back in the saddle girl.....that moment must have been magical :)

Since: Jan 8, 2008
Posted on: May 14, 2008 5:31 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

I was stationed in a place called Iskenderun, Turkey.  I was away from my family so I was saving myself until I returned to the States.  It was well worth the wait!

Since: Jan 1, 2008
Posted on: May 13, 2008 4:12 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

Wow, what a comeback AV.  I hope your cranny isn't too sore.

LM...8 years?  That is unbelievable.  I cannot imagine. 

Personally I would say that those wives tales that you hear about pregnant women being extra horny are total BS.  The 2 pregnancies that I have been a part of have provided my longest stretches of inactivity.  Probably 3-4 months but who is counting (93 days).

Glad to see you back AV.  I actually was wondering where you and TennFan1975 had gone.  I missed you two.

Since: Jan 25, 2008
Posted on: May 13, 2008 3:02 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

Speaking of swings you should get a sex swing they are awesome and a lot of fun. That is true. we use ours every now and then.  we also use the liberator products.  they have a lot of fun  pillows and furniture.  just google

Since: Jan 25, 2008
Posted on: May 13, 2008 2:57 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

I've had sex almost every day. 

why, I almost had sex on friday (TGIF)and  I almost had sex on saturday, I can't remember sunday, I was too wasted; but I did almost have sex last night.  

but seriously, once I went without sex for almost 2 days, it was one of my more painful experiences,  I almost divorced my wife because of it.

Since: Nov 23, 2007
Posted on: May 13, 2008 1:07 pm

The Second Coming of My Virginity

Glad to see you are back in the swing of things. Speaking of swings you should get a sex swing they are awesome and a lot of fun.  The longest i have gone without it it was about 6 months but that was over 10 years ago.  I have been with my wife for over 9 years married for 4 and we get it done on a pretty regular basis.  So i hope you are enjoying yourself again because i dont know what i would do with out it.

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