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V-Day = D-Day

Posted on: February 14, 2008 12:15 am
Edited on: February 14, 2008 12:17 am

Love and relationships can be sport too.

I had been dating this guy for a little while. We hadn’t talked about exclusivity, but it was obvious it was headed in that direction because the amount of time we spent together was increasing. I really liked him, but hadn’t slept with him yet. I admit I was dying to, but I wanted to be sure he and I were on the same page. I figured Valentine’s Day would tell it all. He showed up at my door in a suit with roses and chocolates. He took me to a really nice dinner. These are not the actions of a guy who isn’t sincere about his feelings. He got lucky that night, my gift to him, lol. There was lingerie to go with it too.

Men, let me tell you, V-Day is D-Day in any kind of relationship you’re in. I realize it’s a marketing excuse holiday, but it exists none the same. Women are just waiting to see what you’re going to do.

If you’re married, you better not forget, or else you’re in the doghouse. I’m sure the married men on here can attest. If you do forget, you’re basically telling your wife you take her for granted. It’s not important to you to remember times when you’re supposed to be romantic. She will never let you forget it either. You know I’m right. Us women are brutal. Besides, keeping the romance alive is essential in any relationship otherwise it’s likely to fizzle. I’m sorry guys, it’s true. You’re just going to have to bite the bullet and pull some romance out of your hat even if you don’t like it.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s your chance to show your girlfriend how you really feel. If you do it right, the rewards are endless, if you know what I mean. By the same token, it’s also an opportunity to end a relationship because no rational woman is going to think the guy she’s dating is serious if he blows off Valentine’s Day. Yes, we can be rational and take the hint.

If there’s a woman you like who you haven’t had the guts to approach, well, here’s your opportunity. It’s National Love Day. Take full advantage.

Has your significant other told you she doesn’t want you to do anything? Don’t fall for it! It’s a test! Seriously, women do this sometimes. I don’t, but I’ve seen it happen. She seems cool and talks about how Valentine’s Day is so commercial, and how she hates it. It’s a trap because as soon as she sees all the other women with flowers, etc., she’s wondering if she’s going to get any. All of a sudden she has selective amnesia and forgets she told you to forget it. You show up with nothing, she pouts. You ask her what’s wrong, and she won’t tell you. Sound familiar? You start guessing and Valentine’s Day comes up. “But you told me not to do anything, honey?” “And you believed me????” In life in general, it’s best to follow the motto, better safe than sorry.

As much as the rational side of me knows Valentine’s Day is just a gimmick, I can’t help but want to be a part of it. Any female who says she doesn’t is lying, even if it’s a tiny, tiny piece of her not visible to the eye. Show the women in your life you’re up to the challenge and romance is not dead. Let me add you get points for creativity. Anyone can make a reservation and buy some flowers. I believe the best romantic gesture doesn’t have to cost any money. Spending money is too easy. Thought takes time and effort and shows her how much you care. The best gift I ever got from a guy was a song he wrote for me.

D-Day has come, men! I admit we can be difficult at times, but we’re worth it, so don’t blow it. If you need any advice, feel free. I wish you much luck!

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Since: Dec 1, 2007
Posted on: February 22, 2008 12:35 am

V-Day = D-Day

Hey, thanks, Valpo.  Congrats on 20 years.  That's no easy feat.  I can't believe your wife turned down a romantic vacation for your anniversary!  I'm sorry you were crushed.  I say you should've gone by yourself, lol. 

You know, there are women who don't appreciate their men.  I've seen it.  A man goes to the trouble of planning a date or buying a gift, say thank you and lie if you don't like it.  Here he's waiting for your reaction, and how bad is he going to feel if you're less than enthusiastic.  How would you feel?  I've always put a lot of thought into gifts, and I'll never forget how my brother discarded something I gave him.  Talk about being crushed. 

Since: Sep 16, 2007
Posted on: February 21, 2008 10:20 pm

V-Day = D-Day

YC!  Another good blog... I'll have to check the archives for your posts. 

In my relationship, I am the romantic one.  My wife is just not... mushy.  But that doesn't mean that I have to stop being romantic!  That makes it more fun.  This past year, we celebrated 20 years of marriage.  I had a long weekend planned in New Mexico in October, but she turned me down.  "It is just another day."  I was crushed. 

So, your V-Day = D-Day can go the other way too, ma'am!  Keep the faith - love your neighbor.


Since: Dec 1, 2007
Posted on: February 17, 2008 1:36 am

V-Day = D-Day

I'm glad you decided you like me, Yikes, lol.  I'm honored to be faved and have done the same.

Since: Aug 10, 2007
Posted on: February 17, 2008 1:30 am

V-Day = D-Day

I agree . You seem to be a very bright young woman ( not that there's anything wrong with that --LOL --JUST JOKING ) , and I can't see anything but good things for you . You seem to posess a good combination of  sensibility , practicality , humor and self confidence . I like that in a person , and I'm sure others see this in you as well . Good blog ; keep it up .

As to " chivalrous and chauvinistic " some women are still very much into the whole feminist thing and want to feel they owe nothing to a man . Mistaking the kindness , or what I see as common courtesy ( I hold the door for EVERYBODY ) as a percieved weakness of their sex . Therefore , to them , I am a chauvinist . Don't care . I'm proud of it . . . By the way , having read a number of your posts , I have decided that I like you . In case I didn't tell you before , you have been faved .

Since: Dec 1, 2007
Posted on: February 17, 2008 1:11 am

V-Day = D-Day

Yikes, I don't think it's possible to be chivalrous and chauvinistic at the same time, but I'm not going to argue with a man of your size, lol. 

I think if more families were respectful of each other and generous with their affection, the world would be a much better place.  Kids wouldn't grow up wanting to shoot each other. 

Since: Aug 10, 2007
Posted on: February 16, 2008 8:44 pm

V-Day = D-Day

Yankeechick , I AM a romantic . I readily admit it . I am also a chivalrous chauvenist pig ; I believe in opening and holding doors for others ( men and women ) I say thank you , yes m'am and sir . I respect women and treat them accordingly . I teach my sons to do the same . My sons and I always compliment my wife on the dinner , and thank her for fixing it . Hugs and ' I love you's " are the rule , not the exception in our home . We are all very affectionate , and everyone feels loved --- I think it's manly to be able to express your love to your wife and children without embarassment . . . And if you want to argue , I'm a 6'2" 225 lb man who works in law enforcement , and I'll hurt you . . . ( LOL ) Just kidding . I won't hurt you . . . Probably .

Since: Dec 1, 2007
Posted on: February 16, 2008 6:49 pm
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Since: Dec 1, 2007
Posted on: February 16, 2008 6:48 pm

V-Day = D-Day

How about, if you want something done right, do it yourself. 

You're right though, DB, you can't wait around for something or someone.  If you do and you don't get it or him in my case, you have nobody to blame but yourself. 

Hopefully, the someone you have does stuff for you expecting nothing in return.  That's what real love is all about. 

For a lot of men, it's like prostitution, but where the woman pays them afterward. 

Since: May 11, 2007
Posted on: February 16, 2008 6:34 pm
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Since: Jan 12, 2007
Posted on: February 16, 2008 11:09 am

V-Day = D-Day

I know what your thinking.  AV is loopy. 

Actually you sound pretty in control of yourself to me, I am impressed!!!   Love the comment about the silky lingerie and a Titleist driver in the same sentance......priceless.....made me laugh thats for sure.

You have found a place in life where you are comfortable and that is a great achievement.  Me, I am jealous, I am still trying to get there.

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