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12 Step Recovery Programs

Posted on: July 25, 2008 7:57 pm
 
The 12 Step Recovery Programs have been around for a long time and have helped countless numbers of people deal with a wide variety of addictions, obsessive/compulsuve behaviors, and life problems.  I will present a Bible-based 12 Step program, but understand that secular programs are useful and successful, and I have participated in both.  I am presenting one option for those who want to undertake the challenge of recovery.
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Since: Aug 22, 2006
Posted on: July 27, 2008 3:42 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

This is great KIR.  Bless you for all your work. 



Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 26, 2008 6:22 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

Hey Cblue, thanks for coming by!  And thanks for helping me put this back together.  I'll get the rest posted soon!  Couldn't have done this without your help, dear friend!



Since: Nov 4, 2007
Posted on: July 26, 2008 4:07 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

Thank You KiR for putting this up again! I used all the study guides as I did the twelve steps and they really helped me in the program by letting me see that God really wants my recovery! God bless you for all your hard work on this research. Again let me emphasize that the Bible used in Conjunction with the 12 steps of recovery were pivotal to my recovery and I still study the scriptures listed.



Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 9:16 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 7 Humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings and forgive all our sins.

Step 7 Scripture Study 1

James 4:10
"Humble yourself before the Lord, and He will lift you up."

1 John 1:9
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Psalm 25:16-17
"Turn to me and show me your favor. I am lonely and hurting. The troubles of my heart have increased. Set me free from my great pain."

Step 7 Scripture Study 2

Matthew 18:4
"Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven."

Here Jesus tells us that we are to seek humility, and gives us the example of how little children can be so humble and trusting and how we are to emulate that. Childhood is a time of special innocence. Children respond to their world with delightful honesty and spontaneity. This innocence can also leave them vulnerable to abuse, and it could be that such abuse was the root of some of our addictive behavior. But in God through Christ we have found a loving Father whom we can trust fully with our life, our being. So we can re-gain the humility and trust that we have lost somewhere along the way in our addiction. We can humble ourselves knowing that God will treat this humility in a kind and accepting manner and help us find the healing and strength that we desire and that God desires for us.

Step 7 Scripture Study 3

Read Luke 18:9-14 the parable of the Pharisee and the publican:
"And He [Jesus] spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others:
‘Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.  The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector.  I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’  And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God be merciful to me a sinner!’  I [Jesus] tell you, this tax collector went down to his house justified rather than the Pharisee; for everyone who exalts himself will be abased, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

As a Christian in recovery, we live by the grace and mercy of God. Realizing this, we live in humility before God for it is through Him that we have our victories, our peace and our joy. In this parable, we should be able to well identify with the tax collector, or publican as he is called. After having gone through Step 4 we should realize how many times and in how many ways we have gone against God's love and will for our life. Being aware of this long list of sins from our past, we can only cast down our eyes, beat our breasts and ask for God's mercy in our lives. We can do this because we have a God of mercy and grace, one who hears our pleas and yearnings and finally gives us justification in our humility before Him.

Step 7 Scripture Study 4
Read 1 Peter 5:6-10:
“Therefore humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.  Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.  Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the dsame sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.  But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.”

The apostle Peter reminds us here to humble ourselves before God. And this comes with a reminder that we can do this in total trust because God care for us. Humility before God is so important in the 7th step of asking God to remove our shortcomings. It should stem from a realization that we need God in our lives to help us to overcome, that we cannot do it on our own. Furthermore, it is in humility because it has been a choice of God to extend grace to us. It is a gift and not something that we have earned. For that we need to maintain a humble and grateful attitude. There is also a warning here about the evil one trying to devour us. In the case of addictions, this devouring usually comes in the form of our addictive behaviors. But we are promised if we resist these temptations by God's power and the power that He gives us through fellowship, prayer and all of the other disciplines that we have learned while abiding in Him and working our program, that God will then restore us, establish us, strengthen and settle us.

Step 7 Scripture Study 5

Read Psalm 41:4, Psalm 51:1-13, Proverbs 1:7, Matthew 18:1-4, Luke 18:10-14, and Hebrews 11:6.




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 9:07 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 6 We were entirely ready to have God remove all these sins and defects of character.

Step 6 Scripture Study 1

Matthew 5:23,24
"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift."

James 4:10
"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up."

Psalm 71:20
"You have sent many bitter troubles my way. But you will give me new life. Even if I'm almost in the grave, you will bring me back."

In this Step 6, we repent of our sins and character defects that we uncovered in Step 4 and confessed in Step 5. We do this in order to live daily with Jesus. We search and recognize our sin, confess it, and turn away from it in order to be open to the love and guidance and healing of God. We include here not only our addiction/compulsion, but all sin in our lives.

Step 6 Scripture Study 2

Romans 6:6-14
"Now if we are dead with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him; knowing that Christ being raised from the dead dies no more; death has no more dominion over Him. For in that He died, He died unto sin once; but in that He lives, He lives unto God. Likewise believe you also are dead indeed to sin, but live unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. Let not sin there reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield your body as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin; but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your body as instruments of righteousness unto God. For sin shall not have dominion over you; for you are not under the law, but under grace."

The entire chapter of Romans 6 talks of our new life in Christ following a baptism into the likeness of His death. Christ died and then rose again and death has no more dominion over Him. In the same way, as Christians we are to die to sin so that it will not have dominion over us. As addicts/compulsives, this means that we are to die to those things that once enticed and seduced us. Through the previous steps we should have discovered what this dying means exactly for us in our personal life. We now yield our body to righteousness instead of to the sin of our addictive/compulsive behaviors. This chapter of Romans makes clear and we also know from experience that this dying to sin is a continual process--"a day at a time," as the 12 step saying goes. We become servants of what is right and good, and in that, we find the freedom we could never have had in our addictive/compulsive behaviors.

Step 6 Scripture Study 3

Colossians 3:5-13
"Put to death therefore your body which is upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience in which you once lived. But now you must also put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him . . . Therefore as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long suffering; bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if any one has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you are to forgive others. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body and be thankful."

One of the difficult things about getting rid of our addictive behaviors is that they are often wrapped up in so many other parts of our character and habits. In our lives we have learned to accept so many defects of character in conjunction with our addictive/compulsive behavior. Although lying and stealing may not have been our primary addiction/compulsion, we may have learned to lie or steal or any other of a host of sins in order to conceal and maintain our addiction/compulsion. By Step 6 we have "come clean" through our inventory and confessed to ourselves, to God, and to one other person about these sins. Step 6 is about our willingness to not only give up our addictive/compulsive behaviors, but also all the sin and character defects that surrounded them. Of course, this does not make it a 'done deal' because we will always need to be vigilant against our sins. But as Christians, we are called to continually give them up, as outlined in this passage. In that way we will not only be free of our sins but it will guard against our falling back into our addictive/compulsive behaviors.

This step is about repentance, turning away from our sin of addiction/compulsive behavior, and being willing to change.   There is a certain amount of readiness that will have been evidenced in our lives when we reach this step. However, to be "entirely ready" is a work of the heart and can  only be done by God. Ezekiel 36:27 says, "I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees." Once we have "made the decision to turn from the things of the past," have "examined ourselves," and have "confessed our sins," God is committed to providing us with the "entire readiness" spoken of in this step.

Remember is it possible to live the Christian life!

Step 6 Scripture Study 4

Galatians 1:3-5
"Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for our sins to rescue us from the present evil age, according to the will of our God and Father, to whom be the glory forever and ever. Amen"

Acts 3:19
"Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that the times of refreshing may come from the Lord."




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 9:03 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 5 Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to one other person the exact nature of our wrongs.

Step 5 Scripture Study 1

James 5:16
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed."

Psalm 32: 1-7
"Blessed is the one whose lawless acts are forgiven. His sins have been taken away.
Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord never counts against him.
When I kept silence, my bones waxed old through my roaring all day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me. My moisture is turned into the drought of summer. Selah.
I acknowledged my sin unto the Lord, and my iniquity I have not hid. I said, I will acknowledge my transgressions to the Lord, and He will forgive the iniquity of my sins. Selah
For this end, everyone who is godly will pray unto Thee in a time when You may be found; surely the floods of great waters shall not overcome him. You are my hiding place; You shall preserve me from trouble; You will surround me with songs of deliverance. Selah."

This is a powerful passage that speaks about the cleansing power of confession to God. David writes in the Psalms that when he kept silence his bones grew old, but when he confessed his sins the Lord forgave his iniquity. David then calls the Lord his hiding place. This is the truth we often find in our confession. When we try to hide our addictive/compulsive behaviors, then it becomes known to others and we find shame and disgrace. But when we confess our sins to God, then in His grace we find a place of hiding, a place of safety from our shame and guilt. We can then sing songs of deliverance.

Step 5 Scripture Study 2

Acts 19:18-20
"And many that believed came and confessed and showed their deeds. Many of them also which used curious arts brought their books together and burned them before all men; and they counted the price of them and found it fifty thousand pieces of silver. So mightily grew the word of God and prevailed."

This passage comes from the time when the apostle Paul was in Ephesus. After many demonstrations of the power of the Gospel, many began to believe in the Lord and confessed their deeds. Confession again seems to be part of the act of true repentance. Reflective of that time and place, there was also apparently quite a bit of magic being practiced, which also goes along often with idolatry. Part of their repentance in this case was to burn the books that they used in practicing magic.

In a parallel to our lives, we need to get rid of our sources of temptation as far as possible (given the constraints of living a godly life) so that they will no longer be a source of idolatry to us. In this way, the word of God can also prevail in our lives and give us the true freedom that is found in Christ.

Step 5 Scripture Study 3

1 John 1:9
"If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."

Here we have the principle of confession put in a very straightforward way. We are to confess our sins, and God will be faithful to forgive us. To whom do we confess our sins? This verse does not say explicitly, but we can surmise that it is at least to the Lord, since He is the one doing the cleansing. This does not preclude confession to others. James 5:16 says we should also confess to one another.




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 9:00 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 4 Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Step 4 Scripture Study 1

Lamentations 3:40
"Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord."

Step 4 is not to be taken lightly; there are many facets to working this step with any success. Consider the individual words in the step: Fearless. We must be willing to discover and address ALL facets of our behavior; this often includes admitting to a flaw or a sin that we do not want to surrender to God.   We must leave our comfort zone to do this step.

Moral. Our behaviors--whether they are the addictions we are trying to break free of or any other behavior that we think we can separate from our addictions--all have an impact on other people, effect our relationship with God, and may have good or ill intentions and/or results. We must separate out our own behaviors and be honest about our motives, the effects on others, and what, if any, part of the impact WE are responsible for. We are not responsible automatically for every reaction that goes on around us; God is in control, not us. It will take great soul searching and prayer to identify what responsibility we have and to take that to the Lord in prayer and confession. No other person should do your inventory!!! It is deep introspection between you and God.

Step 4 Scripture Study 2

Romans 1:20-25
"People have no excuse for what they do. They knew God. But they didn't honor Him as God. They didn't thank Him. Their thinking became worthless. Their foolish hearts became dark. They claimed to be wise. But they made fools of themselves . . . So God let them go. He allowed them to do what their sinful hearts wanted to. They chose a lie instead of God's truth. They worshiped and served created things. The didn't worship the Creator."

Why is there suffering in the world? Why are our lives so hard? Why me? If the verse above describes you in any way, you have your answer to these questions. God did not design us for suffering, but if our choices are consistently opposed to surrendering control to God, we will suffer and we will cause others around us to suffer and we will be on the receiving end of suffering caused by the actions of other.

If you do not make that searching fearless moral inventory, you will have a hard time identifying your behaviors that need to be surrendered to God in prayer. His power is available to help anyone who cries out to Him and you will learn to thank Him for it.


Step 4 Scripture Study 3

Luke 12:1-7
"Meanwhile the crowds grew until thousands upon thousands were milling about and crushing each other. He [Jesus] turned now to His disciples and warned them, "More than anything else, beware of these Pharisees and the way they pretend to be good when they aren't. But such hypocrisy cannot be hidden forever. It will become as evident as yeast in dough. Whatever they have said in the darkness shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in the inner rooms shall be broadcast from the housetops for all to hear!" "

The Pharisees in Jesus' day were hypocritical. The parallel is that because of our addictive/compulsive behaviors, we also have been hypocritical. We would tell others one thing but act differently ourselves. Most of us are good at putting on a false face in order to hide the shame within us. We use behaviors to manipulate others, not because the behaviors are the correct course of action. We deceive ourselves and others. God already knows all of this about us. Many people around us may also see this hypocrisy in us. Do we have others deceived successfully? Have we successfully deceived ourselves?

Has your deception brought you pleasure, made others happy, and drawn you closer to God? Or do you hurt inside because you know the truth but do not speak or do it?

Do your inventory--and the truth will set you free!

Step 4 Scripture Study 4

2 Corinthians 10:12
"For we dare not measure ourselves by comparing ourselves to other men.  We measure ourselves by comparing ourselves to the standards of God."

The fact that you sin less often than someone else will NOT help you recover. Our inventory will help us recover only if we compare it to how God looks at our past life and the standards He has set for our moral conduct in recovery. This is a MORAL inventory. It is not our standards or the standards of other people around us, but the standards God has set forth in the Bible. If you do not read your Bible, you have no basis upon which to conduct Step 4.

Know that God forgives those who confess sincerely, God reaches out to those who cry out to Him. Seek His wisdom in His word.

Step 4 Scripture Study 5

2 Corinthians 7:10
"For godly sorrow produces repentance to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death."

GOD DOES NOT WANT US WALKING AROUND FEELING GUILTY!!! GUILT IS NOT THE GOAL!!!   When you do your inventory, you may feel guilt at each discovery of a sin in your life. Confess the sin to God, accept His forgiveness (for if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness--HE DOES IT, WE ACCEPT IT), and move into an attitude of  thankfulness for being forgiven!

GOD CATCHES HIS FISH FIRST, THEN HE CLEANS THEM!




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 8:49 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 3 Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God.

Step 3 Scripture Study 1

Luke 9:23
". . . If anyone would come after Me [Jesus], he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me."

Step 3 encompasses a surrender of our will to God. This does not mean we become robots, it means we seek what God's will is in our life. Obviously God's will for us must be different from our will, since we can tell where our will has taken us--into enough trouble to recognize we need recovery with God's power. Step 3 requires that we turn our lives over to God. We accept what God's plan includes for us--both the good experiences and the difficult. God's plan for our lives includes both hills and valleys and we commit ourselves to both when we make the decision required in Step 3. This is a major decision.

Step 3 Scripture Study 2

In order to complete Step 3, let us look at what the decision encompasses.

There are 5 key considerations in this decision, which together summarize the gospel: Grace, Man, God, Jesus Christ, and Faith.

1. Grace
Grace is a FREE GIFT from God. It is NOT earned or deserved. It does NOT depend on OUR actions. God offers it to all freely.

Romans 6:23
"The wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord."

Wages are what we earn on our own--sin and death; God's gift of grace is what we can receive if we make the decision to turn our will and lives over to Him--eternal life.

2. Man
Man is a sinner. Left on his own, man could not live a perfect, sinless life. Whether our mistakes would be large or small, we would all make mistakes. How have we all done so far? Right. Mistakes! We cannot save ourselves.

It is interesting to note that the Greek word for "sin" was an archery term and meant "to miss the bull's eye" on a target. It didn't matter how far off an archer was from the perfect center of the target, he was either perfect, or his arrow missed perfection, measured as sin.

Matthew 5:48
"Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect . . ."

Romans 3:23
"But all have sinned and come short of the glory of God."

Ephesians 2:8,9
"By grace are you saved through faith, and that faith is not of yourselves, it is a gift of God, not of our works, so no man can boast."

All of us are imperfect. None of us can work our way to perfection on our own so we can't brag about achieving sinlessness. Man needs God's help if eliminating sin from our lives is a goal.

3. God
God is merciful and does not want to punish us, He loves us. However, God is also PERFECT and HOLY and must punish sin.

1 John 4:8
"He who does not love does not know God, for God is love."

Hosea 6:6
"For I desire mercy and not sacrifice . . . "

Habakkuk 1:13
"You [God] are of purer eyes then to behold evil, and cannot look on wickedness."

4. Jesus Christ
He is the incarnate Son of God, the only perfect man, who did not sin Himself, but who died to pay for our sins. His death and resurrection were sufficient to pay for every sin of every person who ever lived or will live and is available to all men.

John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever shall believe upon Him shall never perish but have eternal live."

5. Faith
Faith is not just an intellectual agreement that there is a God but a complete trust in Jesus Christ alone for salvation and a changed life now and eternally. Jesus is the only bridge between man and God--between imperfect and perfect.

James 2:19
"You believe that there is one God; you do well, the demons also believe in God, and tremble."

2 Corinthians 5:14
"The love of Christ constrains us" In other words, we agree we cannot earn salvation, love, and mercy, and we choose to live by surrendering our will and our lives to God out of gratitude that no matter what we have done, if we trust Jesus to have paid for our sins, we are forever forgiven.

Romans 8:1
"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus  . ."

If you are sincere about Step 3 and want to surrender your will and your life to God, express that commitment to Him in prayer:

Lord Jesus, I want You to come take over my life. I am a sinner. I have been trusting in myself to fix my life. But now I place my trust in You. I accept You as my Savior and believe You died for me. Help me turn from my sins and follow You. I accept the free gift of eternal life and I thank You for Your presence in my life. Amen

This is the explanation and commitment needed to take Step 3.

Step 3 Scripture Study 3

Romans 12:1
"Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God--this is your spiritual act of worship."

Psalms 3:1-8
"Lord, how are they increased that trouble me! Many are they that rise up against me. Many there be which say of my soul, "There is no help for him in God." Selah
But Thou, O LORD, are a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter of my head. I cried unto the Lord with my voice, and He heard me out of His holy hill. Selah
I laid me down and slept; I awaked; for the Lord sustained me. I will not be afraid of ten thousands of people that have set themselves against me round about. I will cry to Him, "Arise, O Lord! Save me, O my God!" And He will defeat my enemies and protect me. For salvation comes from God. What joys He gives to all His people."

Many of our acquaintances during our addictive/compulsive behavior may want to draw us back into that life. Some may be afraid to see us succeed in recovery because it will force them to take an honest look at themselves. Others may still be so lost in their own denial, they will not know how to interact with us when we choose a path with God that leads to freedom and away from our bondage. Be ready for some people to be less than encouraging in our efforts. Don't be angry with them for they are still lost; make cautious decisions about which people you can remain friends with as you pursue your recovery with God's strength.


Step 3 Scripture Study 4

Matthew 4:18-23
"And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brothers, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother. They were casting a net into the sea, for they were fishermen.   And He said to them, "Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men." And they immediately left their nets and followed Him. And going on from there, He saw other brothers, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in a boat with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and He called them. And they immediately left the boat and their father and followed Him. And Jesus went about all Galilee, teaching in their synagogues and preaching the gospel of the kingdom and healing all kinds of sickness and all kinds of diseases among the people."

Peter, Andrew, James, and John all followed Jesus when He called them from their regular tasks. They obviously sensed in some way that this was a calling from God, so they turned over their lives to God, leaving behind the familiar tasks and people so that they may know and experience the true life that comes from following God.


Step 3 Scripture Study 5

Romans 10:9, 10
"That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved."

1 John 5:4,5
"For everyone born of God has overcome the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God."

Be sure your belief in God is sincere and you will be granted the victory. Achieving the victory may include various trials and struggles, but your victory is assured.




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 8:43 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP BY STEP STUDIES

Step 2 Came to believe that God could restore us to sanity.

Step 2 Scripture Study 1
 
Philippians 2:13
"For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose."

John 8:36
"So if the Son of Man sets you free, you will really be free indeed."

2 Corinthians 12:9
". . . my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."

Matthew 11:28-30
"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am meek and lowly in heart; and you shall find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."

We work frantically to make our lives sane; there is an inherent contradiction there. How sane can you be if you are frantically trying to run your own life and resorting to addictions/obsessions/ compulsions to give us what we think is the rest we need? We are told we must work for everything, control everything, and we run at top speed just to feel like we are not losing ground. No one can frantically rest. The rest we need comes when we acknowledge we are trying to control things we really can't control.

When we learn running at top speed to stay in one place makes no sense, we can give ourselves permission to stop wasting our energy trying to do something we can't do in the first place. This is perhaps one of the hardest admissions for us to come to grips with in our healing: we cannot accomplish it by frantically working (mostly we do that to avoid looking at the part of our lives that is out of control; we aren't fixing it, we are distracting ourselves!).

And then we will hear God's still, small voice and the path to peace and rest and healing will be available to us.


Step 2 Scripture Study 2

Philippians 2:13
"For it is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose."

Has God ever started a job He could not finish successfully? No. He is sovereign over every aspect of our life.

Romans 10:13
"For whoever calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved."

Does God ever reject anyone? No. Anyone who calls upon Him shall be saved. You don't earn it, work for it, qualify for it. ANYONE!


Step 2 Scripture Study 3

Philippians 1:6
"He who began a good work in you will be faithful to complete it . . . "

God started the work; the work was good; the work will be finished. So at what point did we decide we needed to take over and why? When we failed, as we are doomed to when we run our own lives, what addiction/obsession/compulsion distracted you to make you feel better about your failure or to help you ignore what you were doing to your life? Isn't it time to go back to the original plan and let God do the work? Will you need your addiction/obsession/compulsion to distract you once God continues His good work in you?




Since: Dec 7, 2006
Posted on: July 25, 2008 8:26 pm
 

12 Step Recovery Programs

BIBLE-BASED STEP-BY-STEP STUDIES

Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over our behaviors and substances and that our lives had become unmanageable.


Step 1 Scripture Study 1

"But when He saw the multitudes, He was moved with compassion for them, because they were weary and scattered, like sheep having no shepherd."
Matthew 9:36

The conflict of everyone who is compulsive/impulsive/addicted that the harder we try to compulsively control ourselves and others through the practice of our flaws/addictions, the more out of control our lives become.   In what counterfeit ways do we seek for inner security by manipulation of the outside world?  I think the more we obsess with our health, the more we are actually seeking to be invincible on our own. People get sick. We have to live with that as a fact and not push beyond our physical/mental barriers to deny when we have an illness, disability, addiction.   I think that as workaholics, we may be truly trying to do our jobs to the best of our ability, but we may also be seeking the validation and praise and approval of others. I  think perfectionism works this way too.

We may try to increase our self-esteem by allowing a single person (spouse, parent, boss, romantic partner, child, etc.) to become the only source of our self-image. Our affirmation of worth is dictated by one or two people in our lives, especially if the person(s) are people we are unlikely to get positive responses from or are no longer available as part of our lives (death, divorce, etc.)

We define ourselves through the reactions of a specific person or persons, especially if we perceive those reactions to be negative.


Step 1 Scripture Study 2

"For I know that in me, that is, in my flesh, nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. For the good that I want to do, I do not do; But the evil I want not to do, that I practice. Now if I do what I don't want to do, it is no longer I who does it, but sin that dwells in me."
Romans 7:18-20

Two indicators of character flaws/addictions are the gradual loss of identity outside what we think we should be to others, and the progressive surrender of our personal values in order to maintain the behavior/addiction that causes our lives to be unmanageable.


Step 1 Scripture Study 3

"Have mercy on me, O Lord, for I am weak; O Lord, heal me, for my bones are troubled. My soul also is greatly troubled; But You, O Lord--how long? Return, O Lord, deliver me! Oh, save me for Your mercies' sake!"
Psalm 6:2-4, 6-7

"I am weary with my groaning; All night I make my bed swim; I drench my couch with my tears. My eye wastes away because of grief; It grows old because of all my enemies."

It is normal to want to be (and to believe we are) in complete control of our lives. It is the fortunate person who comes to realize he is NOT. Just as the psalmist David wrote, he had come to the end of himself, all internal and external resources have been tried and we are still troubled. It is not possible or even desirable to totally control everything in our lives. It is the fortunate person who admits reaching this point.



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