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Posted on: October 2, 2008 10:59 pm

A victim no more...I chose to fight and survive.

Not to shed light away from Breast Cancer Awareness, but October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month as well.

Chances are you know someone that has been victim to Domestic Violence. The statistics are staggering. One in four women has been a victim to domestic violence in her lifetime. Did you know that almost 1/3 or the American society say they know someone that has been a victim of domestic violence?  You can find more statistics at:

For nearly a third of my life, I was a victim to domestic violence. At first it started off as verbal abuse. Here I was this independently outspoken female, being shouted down and demeaned into a corner. Fearing my life with every breath, every wrong comment. I began to disassociate myself from people I knew and loved, I was ashamed, scared that they'd see through the mask I was putting up and see the reality. I was called nasty names, and while all this was going on, I made's stress, I provoked things, etc.

I was never able to find an out, I had lost a sense of myself, I was not who I used to be. I was tattered and feared if I misspoke or did something that would set things off, we'd have an outrageous blow-up. I walked rather lightly at times, chose words rather lightly, learned not to push buttons and bite my tongue and turn the other cheek.

I had a son, and things got worse. I almost left, but feared things would get even worse, so I stayed. Continuing to fight a silent fight. Then one day, I found some friends, that convinced me I needed to take action. I began to make plans secretly to remove myself and my son from the situation. And then one night, something I had never expected to happen did. No longer was it only verbal, it became physical. My life flashed before my eyes. I knew I could not leave that night, as it would have been a struggle, but as soon as it was safe I did.  My son and I left, not knowing the road ahead.

Sometime has passed since the incident, I have had the benefit of the assistance of close family members as well as very supportive friends. They have lifted me up and made me realize I was worthwhile and can do this. I can be myself. I can be independent, creative again. I often wonder, what if I did not have the support systems that I had, would I still be in that situation? Shortly after the incident, I had a conversation with a social worker, she told me had I wanted to flee to a shelter instead of my Father's, I would have had to wait for three weeks, as that was the waiting list for a shelter for victim's of DV. I was shocked. Three weeks for victim's of DV, could be the difference of walking out of an abusive situation on your own accord, or being carried out on a stretcher or much worse in a box.

I chose to fight, to no longer be a victim, to no longer be victimized, I CHOSE to survive.

I have also had people say to me after the fact, I suspected something was wrong, but did not want to say something. If you ever suspect that someone you know is a victim of DV, be the outspoken friend, lend support and enable and empower your friend or family member a way out of the situation. I did not realize that so many people noticed that I was in a bad situation...but very few had the courage to speak.

Victim's of domestic violence are everywhere. We can be anyone, we could be your corporate CEO, the greeter at your local discount store, stay at home mom, fry cook at your local eatery, the person standing next to you in line...anyone. As a survivor of DV, my goal now is to share my story, with whoever will listen, give a voice to those who need it, and give an exit to those who need one.

Spread awareness. The Purple Ribbon is for Domestic Violence Awareness.
Posted on: September 12, 2008 6:34 pm
Edited on: September 12, 2008 8:02 pm

Gas Price Gouging in response to Ike

Before I vent, I hope all of you that live in the path of Hurricane Ike, have evacuated safely, and are no longer in harms way. That you have been able to prep your homes and any other interests in the area. For those of you that chose to stay, you have my prayers as are in my prayers, this storm is huge.

Once again, us regular people are being strong armed by the Oil Companies, and the people who own Gas Stores. Ike is on it's way, threatening the Gulf Coast. The vast storm is shutting down the oil refineries that operate within the Gulf. And with this threat, price gouging has already begun.

Gas here in the Triangle area is already high. The state has a ridiculously high gas tax that is added to each gallon of gas purchased. You leave this area, go into different areas and the price drops substantially. After Hurricane Katrina hit, the Atlantic pipeline had been substantially damaged, add to it the increase in price of fuel already seen from post Katrina, this area was hit hard. We saw stations run out of fuel, record high prices, with no relief in sight.

As Ike threatens, the Gulf Coast, people in this area are panicking, long lines are forming everywhere. Gas prices went from around $3.70 this morning, to some stations charging as high as $4.79. BJ's warehouse is out of gas at the moment at one location. I drove by one station that was charging $4.77, while the station immediately next to it was charging $4.17. I drove to BJ's thinking I could get my car filled up and then get the items I need there. While en route, I passed by three stations, two right next to each other, one was charging $4.25 the other, $3.99, the one that was about 1/3 mile down the road, $4.19. The variance from station to station is absolutely amazing. Once I got to BJ's, I realized they were dry, I turned around hoping to get gas for under $4.00 a gallon. I was successful. Thankfully, I had just over a half a tank, and was merely topping off.

Can someone please tell me why it is justified to increase the price for gas when a threat as this imposes, it is not the cost that the vendor paid for the fuel, it is simply price gouging. I understand the entire supply and demand issue, but to be able to increase your price simply because of the threat of a hurricane immobilizing the pipeline is not warranted, nor justifiable. The oil companies and the local gas vendors have us consumers by the jugular, as this is something we need to make our vehicles go, to get to work, to get to the store. When is someone going to make and take a stand against these big oil giants and say enough is enough...we aren't talking millions in profits, we are talking billions.

The economy has suffered greatly over the past few years, yet these corporations still push forth and make profit after profit, quarter after quater, year after year. Everyone has been hit hard by this fuel situation, alternate fuels are not readily available, neither are the vehicles that utilize them, nor are they rather affordable.

In the past month, I switched vehicles from a 2004 Saturn VUE to a 1993 Honda Accord. There was a lady at the station where I was topping off this afternoon, filling up a huge SUV, she commented, I wish I had your car...really, than why are you driving that big thing when it's just you?

I do not have time to drive around looking for the cheapest fuel. But I also do not have money to throw away into the wind like I have a surplus. I also do not have time to sit and wait at a gas station for 45 minutes because they are the cheapest.

Remember when gas was 99 cents a gallon in the 80's? I am sure some of you remember it being even cheaper. I doubt it will ever get this low again. The bottom line, the fuel price hitting where it is now, is putting pressure on other aspects of our economy, people are losing homes, unable to pay bills, because they are putting fuel in vehicles. You may think this an extreme thought, but look at what your fuel cost was two to three years ago...what are you doing now? Look at the home foreclosure rate now compared to two to three years ago, it has increased tremendously.

I am tired of big oil getting all the breaks, this needs to end...and end NOW.
Posted on: August 24, 2008 2:46 pm

You've got to be kidding me!

I took my son to Burger King today because he wanted some of those new "apple fries" that they are selling. So I ordered him a kids meal with apple fries, which are chunks of apple shaped like a steak fry. While looking at the menu, I noticed that there was an additional charge for the apple fries, was like no big deal. The guy on the drive thru made sure to ask, are you aware they cost additional, yes, I want them.

But as I was waiting for my total, I began to peruse the menu a little more, I believe they also have apple wedges, no additional charge, french fries are also no additional charge. But the special apple fries are, why because they come in a presealed package, and a french fry cup...SERIOUSLY?? In this day and age, with childhood obesity rate being as high as it is, you want to charge me an additional dollar because MY SON WANTS TO EAT AN APPLE INSTEAD OF FRENCH FRIES.

This is rather frustrating, in general healthier food choices are often much more expensive at fast food places, think about it, a bottle of water or a salad often costs a lot more and is not available on their dollar or value menu.

These restaurants promote healthy fare eating, but not at an economical price...and for many people for the convenience and price they pay at a fast food restaurant, they will opt for the sandwich and fries, and soda...sad isn't it?
Posted on: August 23, 2008 9:18 am
Edited on: August 23, 2008 10:22 pm

Can someone please enlighten me...

As to why young athletes are dying?

We had yet another incident of this here in the area this week. Not only is it shocking but it is tragic. Chapel Hill High School Senior Offensive Guard Atlas Fraley passed away after practice on August 12. He went home after practice, called 911, they sent a unit out and was later found dead.

Fraley was widely recruited by many schools, and possibly had potential to play on the college level.

My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends for their loss.

His passing raised some questions in my mind, why is this happening. He was only 17. This seems to happen more and more. My questions are, in this day and age of competition in the high school arena increasing are the practices too intensive for these youngsters? Are the medical screenings not sufficient? Is it because we have access to the news 24/7 we are hearing about it more and more now? Or is it something else?
Posted on: August 23, 2008 8:25 am

Breast Cancer Awarness with a spin

We all know about the numerous foundations that promote and support breast cancer awareness and research. But there is a new one that puts a spin on things a little differently.

A lot of you know that I am a photographer, about a month ago, I photographed a little 6 month boy with his mom in matching Breast Cancer t-shirts. They were rather humorous, but drove the point home, from an entirely different perspective. Being a public relations person, I thought this was a fantastic approach to a great cause, and a fresh way to one create awareness but to also do so with a lighter approach.

I will certainly be purchasing some of the apparel from this organization for myself and my son, as well as a bumper sticker for my car.
the son's shirt was the one in the middle

This is a fairly new organization, that launched their mission on July 1, 2008, and they have raised $182,000 for breast cancer research in a short period of time.

I am thinking of getting one of the bumper stickers for my 67 year old Dad, one because I think he'd get a kick out of it, two because I think he'd actually put it on his car.

Kudos to this organization for finding a brilliant approach to increasing awareness for a deadly disease.

Now i just need to decide which tank tops I want to get...
Posted on: August 14, 2008 4:02 pm

When I die...

When I die, I want my ashes shot out of Yosef's gun, after Appalachian scores their first touchdown after my passing. I want everyone to have a party and celebrate my life. No sappy funeral or anything like that.
Posted on: August 12, 2008 2:21 pm

seroiusly...who teaches kids this stuff????

My wonderfully sweet child says Mommy, I can FART with my arm....and proceeds to show me this several times, and talks about how people on mars and saturn fart too...

So I adapt, and get into parenting role, say you say that again, I will put soap in your mouth...whilst I turn my head and am laughing my arse off silently...

Is it just a right of passage for kids, that it is something they learn...perhaps I am jealous, I could never really fart with my armpit.
Category: General
Posted on: August 9, 2008 10:59 am

Teams You LOVE to HATE

We all have them, so out with it...and why?
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